“Beware of allowing a tactless word, a rebuttal, a rejection to obliterate the whole sky” ~ Anaïs Nin Confession: I’m kind of a fixer. I love to smooth things over. Tie up loose ends. Come to a reasonable and harmonious solution that magically satisfies everyone involved. Wrap it all up in a neat little package so that nobody gets hurt …
How You Relate To Your Body Is How You Relate To The World. Because Writing About Dating Wasn’t Personal Enough So I Thought I’d Give Body Image A Try.
“The body is our general medium for having a world.” ~ Maurice Merleau-Ponty, Phenomenology of Perception To say that my relationship with my body has been strained is to understate the reality of things quite a bit. In fact, this relationship has probably been the most challenging and heartbreaking and life-changing relationship of which I have ever been a part. …
This Post Is Kind Of About Dating. I Feel Like I Might Regret This Tomorrow. Which Seems Appropriate Somehow.
“My experience is that the teachers we need most are the people we’re living with right now.” ~Byron Katie A couple of years ago, I was introduced to the idea that relationships are a kind of spiritual practice, fostering transformation and personal evolution in us as individuals, and that we are brought into each other’s lives for exactly this purpose. …
Dream Big Enough To Scare Yourself. Then Go Eat Some Tacos. Also: Apparently, Chivalry is Not Dead.
“You should never hesitate to trade your cow for a handful of magic beans.” ~Tom Robbins Well, it’s been a month since I last posted here – which is a lot longer than I ever intended to wait. But, you know, sometimes you have to go out and live a little in order to have the raw material necessary to …
On Heartbreak, Life Lessons, and Eating Ice Cream in the Bathtub
“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” ~ Helen Keller Most of the best things that have ever happened to me have also seemed like the most devastating at the time of their occurrence. Take every break-up I’ve ever been through as an example. At the time, each one of them completely rocked my …
On Wholehearted Love and Why It Matters If You Like Yourself
“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”~E.E. Cummings I spent the majority of my 20s being not particularly fond of myself on a deep fundamental level. I was also entirely unaware of how worthwhile it would be to invest in learning how to like myself, believing that …
Vulnerability is Scary. Someone Should Probably Bring Wine. (Or, How to Be Brave This Valentine’s Day.)
(Photo of my sister and me, circa 1984. I’m the littler one.) “It is man’s social nature which distinguishes him from the brute creation. If it is his privilege to be independent, it is equally his duty to be inter-dependent. Only an arrogant man will claim to be independent of everybody else and be self-contained.” ~Mahatma Gandhi Confession: I don’t …
Happy New Year! What the Year of the Horse Has In Store For Us and How To Harness Its Power For Good
Well, friends, the Year of the Horse is officially upon us.* I, for one, am immensely excited about this shift in cosmic energy, eager to move out of the deeply introspective, sometimes chaotically emotional, paradigm-altering state of being that has dominated over the past couple of years. While absolutely essential to forward movement, these more internal, introverted, degenerative phases of …
On Awareness, Truth, and Changing Your Story: Why Feeling Like a Square Peg Is Actually a Good Thing
“But what are our stories if not the mirrors we hold up to our fears?” ~ Wally Lamb, I Know This Much Is True I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the stories we tell ourselves. Stories about who we are, fabrications based on where we’ve been or how others have defined us or decisions we’ve made – and often …
Unicorns, Synchronicity, and Embracing the Absurd
The National Animal of Scotland is the Unicorn. Seriously. THE UNICORN. This is one of my favorite random facts because it conveys to me a certain playfulness and prioritization of fun that I feel is often lacking in our modern society. And a belief in magic and myth and mystery. Because we spend too much time being serious, I think, …