What Bravery Looks Like

“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~Brene Brown

Last week, I confessed to a dear friend that I am secretly holding onto the belief that I am the least brave person I know.

She literally laughed in my face when I said this to her.

Which made me laugh. And then made me love her even more.

Because, you know what? She’s right. I am brave. And my resistance to allowing this to be true in my life and my failure to give myself actual credit for all of the courageous things I have accomplished […]

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    Where Do We Go From Here? Some Thoughts About the Year Ahead.

Where Do We Go From Here? Some Thoughts About the Year Ahead.

“Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it. Make your mistakes, next year and forever.” ~Neil Gaiman

This past year was a paradigm-shifting year for me.

For a lot of folks, I think.

It brought so much buried shit to the surface in my life personally, it sort of feels like 2017 is going to be all about sifting through the mess, trying to make sense of what’s in front of me without completely losing my mind.

I think this happened on both a national and a global scale as well.

The beautiful thing about getting all this shadowy stuff out where we can see it, is that we’re now forced to actually engage […]

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    We’re All Below Average Sometimes: On Compassion, Kindness, and Not Becoming a Narcissist

We’re All Below Average Sometimes: On Compassion, Kindness, and Not Becoming a Narcissist

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” ~Desmond Tutu

Last week, I had a drink with a friend — a wise, wise woman who also happens to be a very talented therapist — and she recounted for me a story about suggesting to a client that perhaps happiness isn’t actually what we should be chasing after in this life.

What if happiness isn’t the goal?

My friend said her client’s mind was blown. But also:  There was SO MUCH relief in realizing that she didn’t have to be happy in […]

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    Your Art is Essential. (Or, On Being Creative In Times Like These.)

Your Art is Essential. (Or, On Being Creative In Times Like These.)

“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.” ~Osho

One of my favorite things on in the internet right now is Brain Pickings — the magical creation of a super inspiring woman, Maria Popova, that serves as a daily celebration of creativity and contribution, and our capacity to cultivate more meaningful lives through collaboration and cross-pollination and the intentional expansion of our […]

You Are Powerful. Also: Happy Thanksgiving, Everyone.

“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.” ~Ernest Hemingway

Well, Thanksgiving is right around the corner, you guys. I have been trying to focus on all the things for which I am grateful amidst the chaos and the absurdity and the unsettling political reality by which we are all surrounded right now.

I admit:  It has been challenging.

But I still believe (as I wrote prior to the election being over) that we cannot lose sight of our joy even while there is legitimately horrifying and heartbreaking stuff happening in this world at the moment.

Because once we allow the awfulness of it all to […]

The Day After (Or, My Thoughts on the Election)

“We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.” ~ J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

For the first time ever following a presidential election, I woke up this morning and wept.

Because I am heartbroken about what happened last night.

Devastated that so many people in our country allowed fear and hatred to be the driving force in determining how they ultimately decided to vote.

I realize now how naive I have been. How blind I have been to the racism and the sexism and the bigotry still alive in this country. And how much work there is left to do to make things

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    On Joy, Cat Poop, and Finding the Good in a World That’s Gone Mad

On Joy, Cat Poop, and Finding the Good in a World That’s Gone Mad

My sweetheart and I are proud parents to three furry felines.

Yes. Three.

If you had told me five years ago that I would be living in a house with a man I adore and that we would be outnumbered by our cats, I would have thought you were crazy.

Because five years ago I was fully committed to my singledom, thoroughly enjoying solitary living, fairly certain that I would live out the rest of my days on my own, with maybe one cat to keep me company.

(And, well, possibly a rotating selection of suitors who would, ideally, rarely stay the night.)

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    Both Can Be True. (Or, We’re All a Bunch of Contradictions Masquerading as People.)

Both Can Be True. (Or, We’re All a Bunch of Contradictions Masquerading as People.)

“One is fruitful only at the cost of being rich in contradictions.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche

Both can be true.

I anchor into this idea often, especially during moments of high anxiety, when it feels like watching a tornado of uncontrollable emotion uproot the foundation I have worked so hard to build over the past several years of my life.

Because in those moments, I can go from feeling safe, secure, and put-together to feeling completely unraveled in a matter of minutes.

And it can feel like the mature, self-sufficient, smart, business-owning woman I have become is all at once erased by the emotional storm into which […]

Passion is Fickle, But Curiosity is Non-negotiable

“I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift would be curiosity.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

If you’re around the same age as I am and have spent any time on the internet in the past five or six years, you are probably very familiar with the frequently suggested notion of following your passion.

Quit your job and follow your passion!

Screw the 9 to 5!

Do what you love!

Etc, etc, etc.

The idealistic, impulsive little girl inside of me wants to jump on this bandwagon of passion-pursuing so badly […]

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    Balance is a Dirty Word. And Other Truths About Being Human.

Balance is a Dirty Word. And Other Truths About Being Human.

“There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.” ~Alain de Botton

I sometimes wonder if I’m too honest about just how imperfect I actually am.

But, ultimately, if the moldy piece of fish in my refrigerator makes even one other person feel a little bit better about all the ways she might feel like she’s failing, then exposing myself for the disgusting human I am is totally worth the potential embarrassment.

Because although I feel like it’s important that we start talking more openly about our flaws and getting real with each other about how hard it is to be a human in this […]