Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 7: Sex and Desire

Sex and desire. These are the topics for this week’s podcast episode.


Tracey and I started this podcast because we wanted a place to have honest, unfiltered conversations, to talk about things that get pushed aside or pretended away or ignored because they might lead to discomfort or uncertainty.

Well, I think we might have nailed it (pun intended) with this episode. It’s possible some parts of our discussion will make you slightly uncomfortable. Hopefully this dialogue also makes you think a little bit.

At the very least, I hope you laugh. We certainly did.

Please note that we talk very openly and honestly about sex, sex education, and […]

Let’s Stop Pathologizing Anxiety, Shall We?

“Our task must be to free ourselves… by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”  ~ Albert Einstein

Is anxiety always pathological? I think not.

As someone with a previous history of panic attacks that seemed to arise out of nowhere, I can say that I am very familiar with the experience of an anxiety that is persistent and disruptive to everyday living, and an anxiety that can be difficult to trace to a specific origin.

But I think automatically labeling all anxiety as pathological is unhelpful for a myriad of reasons.

Most notably, anxiety is your body trying to send a […]

Announcing the Curious & Curiouser Podcast

Oh hey! Guess what? I started a podcast!

I know! I’m super excited, too. This project was birthed out of a random tea date with a friend, Tracey, who also happens to be a brilliant woman with a private therapy practice here in Portland, Oregon.

After wanting to secretly start a podcast on my own for at least a year, I was happy to learn that Tracey was also interested in embarking on such a project, and that we had similar visions for how that […]

I Don’t Know Either

We’re all searching for some sort of certainty except that certainty isn’t something that exists in most cases.

Even in science, something is true only until it isn’t.

Take last week, for example, when two major discoveries were made about how the body functions.

The first demonstrated that the cerebellum — a large structure located at the back of the brain — is more complex in its function than previously thought. It has long been believed that the cerebellum operated largely beyond the arena of conscious awareness, controlling motor function and sensory input only. But now, scientists have shown that […]

You Don’t Have to Be Certain to Be Helpful

I’ve decided that being a relatively content human is often about learning how to hold two contradictory truths in your brain at the same time without imploding.

What do I mean by this?

Well, let’s start with an example — namely, me. Because I am a total contradiction in so many ways.

I am largely a science-y, show me the evidence, where’s the proof kind of person. And yet, I absolutely believe that intuition trumps intellect in many situations. I also study both neurobiology and astrology in my spare time (what???), and while I am ridiculously grateful and content with my life, I am […]

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New Body, Old Programming: Why It’s Ok to Love Your Body Regardless of Your Size

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.” ~Charles Bukowski

Earlier this week, a few hours after waking up, I made the rare (in my case) decision to jump on the scale in my bathroom and find out what I weighed on that particular day.

Why? I seriously have no idea. Curiosity, I suppose.

It had been over a year since I last weighed myself. And before that? Well, let’s just say I’d spent the previous decade intentionally evading scales and asking to be weighed backwards at the doctor’s office, afraid that knowing the pounds and ounces of my own body might result in […]

On Breaking Out of the Arbitrary Success Box

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” ~Winston Churchill

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about identity. About how we define ourselves. About how we define success. About how we determine our worth in a world that sees our value as individuals through the lens of some seriously questionable criteria.

And a shockingly soulless list of priorities.

Because it is all too easy in our society to feel like a failure if your life doesn’t look shiny and pretty and perfectly curated.

If you’re not bringing in a certain amount of money every month or living in the […]

Make Your Joy Non-Negotiable

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” ~Desmond Tutu

To say that I have been feeling a general lack of hope or positivity or joy over the past few weeks would be to greatly underrepresent how awful I have actually felt much of the time.

Because what is taking place in our country right now is both disheartening and terrifying, rage-inducing and saddening, and is just completely overwhelming in scope.

I have found myself bursting into spontaneous tears at the dinner table, waking at 4am consumed by anxiety, and finding it […]

We’re All in this Together

I have been relatively quiet in this space over the past couple of weeks, not wanting to allow what’s happening politically to dominate my website, as my overall goal here is to provide (hopefully) useful insights on how to live a healthier and more fulfilled life.

The truth is, however, that what’s happening politically in our country right now has really been at the forefront of my mind, especially since the inauguration. And regardless of what you believe, I think we can all agree that it has been a bit overwhelming to process all of the things taking place in our country right now.

I have also not been shy about […]

What Bravery Looks Like

“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~Brene Brown

Last week, I confessed to a dear friend that I am secretly holding onto the belief that I am the least brave person I know.

She literally laughed in my face when I said this to her.

Which made me laugh. And then made me love her even more.

Because, you know what? She’s right. I am brave. And my resistance to allowing this to be true in my life and my failure to give myself actual credit for all of the courageous things I have accomplished […]