What Bravery Looks Like

“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~Brene Brown

Last week, I confessed to a dear friend that I am secretly holding onto the belief that I am the least brave person I know.

She literally laughed in my face when I said this to her.

Which made me laugh. And then made me love her even more.

Because, you know what? She’s right. I am brave. And my resistance to allowing this to be true in my life and my failure to give myself actual credit for all of the courageous things I have accomplished […]

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    Where Do We Go From Here? Some Thoughts About the Year Ahead.

Where Do We Go From Here? Some Thoughts About the Year Ahead.

“Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it. Make your mistakes, next year and forever.” ~Neil Gaiman

This past year was a paradigm-shifting year for me.

For a lot of folks, I think.

It brought so much buried shit to the surface in my life personally, it sort of feels like 2017 is going to be all about sifting through the mess, trying to make sense of what’s in front of me without completely losing my mind.

I think this happened on both a national and a global scale as well.

The beautiful thing about getting all this shadowy stuff out where we can see it, is that we’re now forced to actually engage […]

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    We’re All Below Average Sometimes: On Compassion, Kindness, and Not Becoming a Narcissist

We’re All Below Average Sometimes: On Compassion, Kindness, and Not Becoming a Narcissist

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” ~Desmond Tutu

Last week, I had a drink with a friend — a wise, wise woman who also happens to be a very talented therapist — and she recounted for me a story about suggesting to a client that perhaps happiness isn’t actually what we should be chasing after in this life.

What if happiness isn’t the goal?

My friend said her client’s mind was blown. But also:  There was SO MUCH relief in realizing that she didn’t have to be happy in […]

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    Your Art is Essential. (Or, On Being Creative In Times Like These.)

Your Art is Essential. (Or, On Being Creative In Times Like These.)

“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.” ~Osho

One of my favorite things on in the internet right now is Brain Pickings — the magical creation of a super inspiring woman, Maria Popova, that serves as a daily celebration of creativity and contribution, and our capacity to cultivate more meaningful lives through collaboration and cross-pollination and the intentional expansion of our […]

Where to Shop on Small Business Saturday

Happy Small Business Saturday, Everyone!

While I not-so-secretly cringe every year when Black Friday arrives, I LOVE celebrating small businesses and shopping locally the Saturday after Thanksgiving.

And, as a small business owner myself, I like to spread the love around as much as possible by encouraging everyone I know to support local businesses during the holiday season by purchasing their gifts from these “little boxes” instead of visiting those big box stores.

Thus, in the spirit of Small Business Saturday, I’d like to share with you a few of my favorite places to shop locally in Portland, in the hopes that you’ll visit at least a few of them before the […]

Passion is Fickle, But Curiosity is Non-negotiable

“I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift would be curiosity.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

If you’re around the same age as I am and have spent any time on the internet in the past five or six years, you are probably very familiar with the frequently suggested notion of following your passion.

Quit your job and follow your passion!

Screw the 9 to 5!

Do what you love!

Etc, etc, etc.

The idealistic, impulsive little girl inside of me wants to jump on this bandwagon of passion-pursuing so badly […]

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    Balance is a Dirty Word. And Other Truths About Being Human.

Balance is a Dirty Word. And Other Truths About Being Human.

“There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.” ~Alain de Botton

I sometimes wonder if I’m too honest about just how imperfect I actually am.

But, ultimately, if the moldy piece of fish in my refrigerator makes even one other person feel a little bit better about all the ways she might feel like she’s failing, then exposing myself for the disgusting human I am is totally worth the potential embarrassment.

Because although I feel like it’s important that we start talking more openly about our flaws and getting real with each other about how hard it is to be a human in this […]

On Moldy Fish, Adulting, and Being An Imperfect Mess

“Excuse the mess, but we live here.” ~Roseanne Barr

Can we talk about the moldy piece of fish in my fridge?

(Stay with me here. This is going somewhere. I promise.)

Earlier this week I pulled a pyrex container out of the back of my refrigerator and discovered that it contained the most disgusting piece of old salmon ever. Complete with a thick layer of fuzzy white mold and a fragrance I can’t quite describe unless you were there to inhale its awfulness.

This lovely specimen was cooked more than two weeks prior to its unfortunate discovery and tossed in the fridge by yours truly, with every intention of eating it the following […]

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    Should You Ice That Injury? Probably Not. (Or, Why RICE is Outdated and Wrong)

Should You Ice That Injury? Probably Not. (Or, Why RICE is Outdated and Wrong)

“Nothing burns like the cold.” ~George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

As a competitive athlete in the 90s and early 2000s, I spent many a day getting cozy with a bag of ice.

The gold standard of care for any minor injury at that time — from a bruise to slight sprain — was, of course, to wrap the sucker in ice and wait.

When I got to college (where I was a member of the soccer team) we graduated from bags of ice to an actual ice bath, in which we would sit up to our waists after every game and almost every practice, not-so-secretly competing to see who could […]

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    On Optimism, The Secret, and Why Preparing For the Worst Case Scenario Doesn’t Make You a Curmudgeony Curmudgeon

On Optimism, The Secret, and Why Preparing For the Worst Case Scenario Doesn’t Make You a Curmudgeony Curmudgeon

“Whatever can happen at any time can happen today.” ~Seneca, On the Shortness of Life

I remember being introduced to The Secret about a decade ago (just after it made it’s widely popular debut thanks to Oprah), and completely buying into the idea that I could manifest what I desired by imagining it would be so and creating a vision board and then just wanting it really, really badly.

I also fell into the trap of believing so wholeheartedly and literally in the law of attraction that I was certain my thoughts would attract into my life exactly the things I was spending my time thinking about.

(Admittedly, I was extra […]