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    New Body, Old Programming: Why It’s Ok to Love Your Body Regardless of Your Size

New Body, Old Programming: Why It’s Ok to Love Your Body Regardless of Your Size

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.” ~Charles Bukowski

Earlier this week, a few hours after waking up, I made the rare (in my case) decision to jump on the scale in my bathroom and find out what I weighed on that particular day.

Why? I seriously have no idea. Curiosity, I suppose.

It had been over a year since I last weighed myself. And before that? Well, let’s just say I’d spent the previous decade intentionally evading scales and asking to be weighed backwards at the doctor’s office, afraid that knowing the pounds and ounces of my own body might result in […]

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    Should You Ice That Injury? Probably Not. (Or, Why RICE is Outdated and Wrong)

Should You Ice That Injury? Probably Not. (Or, Why RICE is Outdated and Wrong)

“Nothing burns like the cold.” ~George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

As a competitive athlete in the 90s and early 2000s, I spent many a day getting cozy with a bag of ice.

The gold standard of care for any minor injury at that time — from a bruise to slight sprain — was, of course, to wrap the sucker in ice and wait.

When I got to college (where I was a member of the soccer team) we graduated from bags of ice to an actual ice bath, in which we would sit up to our waists after every game and almost every practice, not-so-secretly competing to see who could […]

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    On CrossFit and Body Image and Widening the Lens on Female Beauty

On CrossFit and Body Image and Widening the Lens on Female Beauty

“In all the years I’ve been a therapist, I’ve yet to meet one girl who likes her body.” ~Mary Pipher, Author of Reviving Ophelia:  Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls

“There is more wisdom in your bodies than in your deepest philosophies.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche

I have a confession:  I love CrossFit.

(Gasp.)

Like a lot of folks, I once had about a million pre-conceived ideas about CrossFit that left me convinced I would never, ever, EVER try it.

Specifically, I had been told — by other healthcare practitioners, especially — that CrossFit is dangerous and bad for me and cult-y and just a really terrible idea in general.*

And, so, I was pretty sure […]

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    Let’s Change the Conversation About Bodies. Because They’re a Whole Lot More Interesting Than We’re Making Them Out To Be. (Also: This Post Might Talk About Sex. Don’t Say I Didn’t Warn You.)

Let’s Change the Conversation About Bodies. Because They’re a Whole Lot More Interesting Than We’re Making Them Out To Be. (Also: This Post Might Talk About Sex. Don’t Say I Didn’t Warn You.)

“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.”  ~Rita Mae Brown

On Sunday of this week, I got on a scale for the first time in at least six years. And for the first time in almost a decade, I actually looked at the number that appeared when I did.

This, you guys, was a big moment for me.

Mostly because the number didn’t terrify me or change how I felt about myself or really mean anything at all, honestly.

You see, in my mid-twenties, after years of measuring my self-worth by what some stupid scale told me about how many pounds of person were tucked […]

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    How You Relate To Your Body Is How You Relate To The World. Because Writing About Dating Wasn’t Personal Enough So I Thought I’d Give Body Image A Try.

How You Relate To Your Body Is How You Relate To The World. Because Writing About Dating Wasn’t Personal Enough So I Thought I’d Give Body Image A Try.

“The body is our general medium for having a world.” ~ Maurice Merleau-Ponty, Phenomenology of Perception

To say that my relationship with my body has been strained is to understate the reality of things quite a bit.

In fact, this relationship has probably been the most challenging and heartbreaking and life-changing relationship of which I have ever been a part. Talk about spiritual transformation.

As a teenager and an early twenty-something, I put a lot of energy into actively hating and abusing and trying to fundamentally change my body. And for a very long time, there was absolutely nothing about it I […]