Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 96: Projection, Procrastination, Shame, & Ignoring the Elephants in Our Rooms


On this week’s episode of the podcast, Tracey and I are asking:  Why do we insist on ignoring the elephant in the room? We’re talking about all the different kinds of elephants we pretend not to see — in our relationships, in our health, in our work, etc — and how ignoring the elephants negatively impacts our lives.

Specific topics discussed include:

  • Different kinds of elephants we ignore
  • Why we’re afraid that acknowledging an elephant might be the end of a relationship
  • How ignoring elephants feeds resentment
  • Our need to feel safe
  • Change is inevitable
  • Talking about the elephant is a form of self care
  • Projections and why we’re terrible at guessing what someone else is feeling
  • How we make up stories about what other people are thinking/feeling
  • Our brains fill in gaps
  • How this applies to friendships
  • Ignoring the elephants about our physical health
  • We can compensate for ignored elephants for a long time. Until we can’t
  • Procrastination and elephants
  • How acknowledging the elephant builds self-trust
  • How shame plays into this
  • If you keep secrets about yourself in a relationship, you’ll never feel secure
  • Acknowledging the elephant will require us to change
  • When my elephant was how much I was drinking
  • Why sleep, nutrition, hydration, movement are essential to emotional health/intelligence
  • The elephants feed on our ignorance
  • Dealing with the elephant now is a gift we give to our future selves
  • Curiosity is key
  • How ignoring the elephant is a habit
  • And more!

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