Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 94: The Unsexy Truth About Changing Your Life & Why the Process is More Important Than the Outcome


The truth about transformation? It is super unsexy. Tracey and I are talking all about why this is true and asking the following question:  How do you buy into the process of change when the outcome isn’t guaranteed?

Specific topics discussed include:

  • There is no formula for healing
  • Letting go of a specific expectation/outcome
  • Meditation isn’t a magic bullet
  • True change happens in small habits done consistently over time
  • We will always get triggered
  • Committing to healing requires faith
  • Relationships are about processes, too
  • Focus on feeling states instead of tangible things
  • Changing our relationships with our mothers
  • Better vs. different
  • Satisfaction is in the pursuit of the goal
  • We’re terrible at predicting what will make us happy in the future
  • Joy in suffering
  • Investment without attachment
  • How pain can be useful
  • How do you know when it’s time to make a change
  • Healing our relationships with our bodies
  • Transformation is about intentionally changing patterns
  • 90% of what we do in a day is automatic
  • How do you know you’ve changed?
  • Why it can be helpful to track certain things to gather evidence of change
  • Specific tools Tracey and Cayly have used to change their lives
  • And more!

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The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Episode 91 on people pleasing

Stumbling on Happiness by Dan Gilbert

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Piquing Our Curiosity:

Stasia’s Style School. Find Stasia on Instagram here or visit her website here. I also highly recommend checking out her TEDx talk.

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