Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 79: You Don’t Have to Put Up With Nonsense & Other Truths About the Holidays

In this week’s episode, Tracey & I are talking about how to not let the holidays suck the life out of you by managing expectations around interactions with family and taking responsibility for the role you are playing in perpetuating potentially unpleasant dynamics around this time of year.

Specific topics discussed include:

  • Being aware of the energy you are bringing into the situation
  • Letting go of the idea that you can change people
  • Why you don’t have to engage with every person on every topic
  • The stories that other people — especially family members — have about us and how they are often not accurate
  • Why you don’t have to justify yourself or your life to other people
  • Releasing the need to control the family narrative
  • Recognizing how your energy can best be used
  • The role of trauma and healing
  • How to not judge your family members for not “doing the work”
  • And more!

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Our original episode about the holidays from last year

Episode 4, Episode 23, and Episode 38 about social decluttering

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

Don’t Be a Jerk on Tracey’s website

Forgive For Good by Fred Luskin

BIFF:  Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Hostile Emails, Persona Attacks, and Social Media Meltdowns by Bill Eddy


Piquing Our Curiosity:

Parking Kitty, an app that enables you to pay for metered parking from your phone. Super convenient, super easy. Highly recommend!

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