Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 71: Emotional Labor, Conflict in Relationships, & Why We Need to be Willing to Rock the Boat

This week’s question is:  Is it reasonable to ask someone to care about certain things as much as you do?

In this conversation, Tracey and I are talking about emotional labor in relationships and how to approach this topic in a partnership when it feels like one person is carrying more of the load.

Other topics discussed include:

  • Why it’s essential to ask for what we need and why having to ask doesn’t mean our partner doesn’t love us
  • How women are conditioned not to rock the boat and why it is essential that they risk doing so
  • The importance of showing gratitude when your partner is doing more of the emotional labor
  • How defensiveness derails communication
  • Negotiating household tasks before living together or getting married
  • Modeling gender equality in a relationship for your kids
  • Why relationships require conflict to flourish
  • How avoiding confrontation or trying to keep the peace actually makes relationships more fragile
  • And so much more!

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Relevant resources:

Women Aren’t Nags — We’re Just Fed Up in Harper’s Bazaar 

Be the Person You Want to Find by Cheri Huber 

John Gottman and the Gottman Institute

How to Be an Adult in Relationships

Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson 

Harville Hendrix and Imago Therapy 

Improv(e) Your Conversations by Patrick King


Piquing Our Curiosity:

Health-ade Kombucha & Lion Heart Kombucha, two of my favorite kombucha brands, recently discovered during my hiatus from drinking alcohol. 90+ days and going! 🙂


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