Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 54: Identity, Ego, Existential Crises, & How We Define Ourselves Over Time

This week, Tracey and I are talking all about identity and how it changes over time. We discuss our experiences of getting older, how we’ve had to let go of old identities along the way, and ways in which this process has been challenging for us personally.

We also talk about the role social media plays in how we establish our identities and define ourselves over time, and the importance of not depending upon outside validation to determine your worth in the world.

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Highlights from this episode:

  • My existential crisis about her age
  • How Tracey feels about turning 50 and how I feel about turning 40, and why I never thought I would make it to 40
  • Thirty Something
  • What makes Tracey and Cayly feel old
  • How Cayly feels about her grey hair
  • Working out differently as we get older and my experience letting go of my identity as a competitive athlete
  • Intrepid Athletics PDX
  • The relationship between ego and identity
  • Are we using things outside ourselves to establish who we are?
  • What identities are Tracey and I learning to let go of?
  • Are we afraid to let go of outdated identities?
  • Messages Tracey and I both got about our external appearance determining our value
  • Tracey’s shift in sexual identity in her 40s
  • Self-worth and intelligence and/or academic performance
  • The role of social media in establishing and curating our identities
  • Our identities as brands
  • Episode 32 on social media
  • Joe Rogan & Sebastian Junger on social media
  • Projecting identities onto other people
  • Evolving as individuals through partnership
  • Values and core identities
  • Grieving old identities and how serious injury or illness can shift your identity
  • And more!

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