Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 47: On Confidence, Ego, Orgasm, & How Good Sex is Like Improv with Stacey Hallal

On today’s episode, Tracey and I are welcoming Stacey Hallal to the show. A good friend of Tracey’s, Stacey is also the founder of and current artistic director at Curious Comedy Theater here in Portland, Oregon.

Tracey and I invited Stacey to the show to share her perspective on dating in your 40s, the challenge of communicating with a sexual partner about sex, and the evolution of one’s sexual identity over multiple decades — including navigating through marriage and divorce.

The specific question around which this conversation revolves is:  Why is it so hard to communicate about sex with a partner?

Buckle up, friends. This dialogue covers everything from confidence in the bedroom to female ejaculation to how to talk about sex with your kids. It’s a good one.

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Highlights from this episode:

  • Does talking about sex take away the magic of it?
  • How do you suggest that somebody do something differently without making them feel like they’re not good enough?
  • The confidence it takes to ask for what you want and to communicate around sex
  • Communicating about sex in a new relationship
  • What percentage of women have orgasm during intercourse?
  • On not being passive as a woman during sex and how strong vaginas actually are
  • Female ejaculation banned by UK in pornography
  • This Film is Not Yet Rated and female pleasure in movies
  • Approaching sex with an attitude of playing an instrument vs. being good or bad at sex
  • What we can learn from partnered sex that we can’t learn on our own
  • Why we need to communicate with kids about sex and how to help them learn the language
  • Stacy’s experience growing up in a home environment that was very open about sex
  • How we felt about our parents having sex when we were kids
  • Normalizing sex and desire for kids
  • Stacy and Tracey’s experience of exploring their sexuality after divorce in their 40s
  • The importance of checking your ego at the door when it comes to sex
  • How pornography can make you feel insecure sexually
  • She Bop and the benefits of going to a sex shop with a partner
  • A conversation I regret not having with a past partner and how this led to the break up of their relationship
  • Why we’re often afraid to talk about sex with our partners
  • On no longer being excited by the chase of someone who isn’t interested in you
  • How feeling shame around your body makes communication about sex more challenging?
  • And more!

Piquing Our Curiosity:

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