Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 39: Pornography, Masturbation, & Shame

Get ready, folks. This week on Curious & Curiouser, Tracey and I are talking all about pornography.

Is it ok to enjoy pornography? How does pornography impact relationships? Is watching pornography cheating?

This conversation addresses all of these questions and more. It’s a lively discussion about a rather taboo topic. Tracey and I sincerely hope you enjoy it.

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Highlights from this episode:

  • Demonizing the sex industry and the impact this has
  • The role of shame and secrecy in how we express and explore our sexuality
  • Is masturbation cheating? Is watching porn cheating?
  • The role of insecurity and the need to talk about this openly with your partner
  • Do your own your partner’s sexuality?
  • Are partnered sex and masturbation fulfilling the same desire?
  • Is erotic fiction different from pornographic videos?
  • Tracey’s experience of reading Fifty Shades of Grey
  • Pornography and jealousy
  • How engaging with porn too much can impede your ability to get aroused with another person
  • The problem with the ubiquity of pornography in today’s world
  • Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
  • What Tracey said to her 14 year-old son about pornography and masturbation
  • My memory of getting shamed for touching myself as a young girl
  • Hot tip:  Masturbation is great for insomnia
  • The importance of talking to girls about masturbation
  • When do masturbation and pornography become problematic in a relationship?
  • Can pornography enhance a relationship?
  • Erika Lust
  • Dan Savage and Hump Festival; Tracey’s experience going to the event this year
  • Our feelings about strip clubs and sex clubs, etc.
  • The double standard around male strip clubs
  • Dear Sugars on Porn:  Parts 1 and 2
  • Wack:  Addicted to Internet Porn by Noah B.E. Church
  • And more!

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