Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 37: Being an Introvert in an Extroverted World & How to Know When It’s Time to Quit

On this week’s episode of Curious & Curiouser, Tracey and I are answering another listener question. Specifically, they are tackling the following inquiry:

What if you make a life choice that always has you outside your comfort zone? Is it best to stay in a job (or something else) that stresses you out but makes you grow as a person, or switch to something that’s a better match for your personality but leads to less growth overall?

Great question, listener (who shall remain nameless)!

In this conversation, Tracey and I talk about being introverts in extroverted jobs, how we manage this apparent mismatch, and why we believe the discomfort is worthwhile for us in our professions. We also offer some suggestions on questions you can ask yourself if you’re afraid you’ve made the wrong choice career-wise.

We talk about staying in relationships that are uncomfortable, reasons why people make this choice, and ways to navigate this less-than-ideal situation if you find yourself in it.

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Highlights from this episode:

  • What to do if you’re in a introvert is a fast-paced job. (i.e. Should you stay in that position in spite of the discomfort?)
  • How do Tracey and I handle working in extroverted jobs when we self-identify as introverts?
  • How do you know if the discomfort of your job becomes too much to be healthy, sustainable, and/or helpful?
  • Our world caters to extroverts more than introverts and why an introvert will likely be more uncomfortable more often in our culture
  • Quiet:  The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking by Susain Cain
  • How Tracey talks with her clients about introversion and extroversion and building muscles on both sides
  • Why I say “No” to social invitations most of the time
  • How Tracey manages her energy between client meetings, improv, and parenting obligations
  • What questions to ask yourself to figure out if the discomfort you’re feeling is worthwhile. (i.e. Is it useful or irritating discomfort?)
  • What I realized about my secret dream job
  • The importance of questioning your assumptions about yourself; Episode 12 about the stories we tell ourselves
  • Why I am working to not identify so strongly as an introvert and is pushing back against my own instincts more often
  • Why people stay in imperfect, uncomfortable relationships
  • The importance of making a plan to get out of an uncomfortable situation and the reality of logistics when it comes to changing directions
  • The power of doing one thing differently
  • How identifying your values and priorities factor in when making these decisions
  • Is it okay to give yourself permission to stay where you are?
  • Does being in the right place ever feel uncomfortable?
  • And more!

Piquing Our Curiosity:

On Being with Krista Tippett, a podcast that explores the meaning of life from all sorts of different angles, often with a bit of a spiritual leaning. Some of my favorite episodes include Krista’s interviews with Bessel van der Kolk, Maria Popova, & Sheryl Sandberg. Find On Being in iTunes or online here.


Remember, if you have any topics or questions you’d like us to address in a future episode, comment here or email us at our joint email account: We’d love to hear from you!

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