Curious & Curiouser Podcast, Episode 23: Dating, Authenticity, & Social Decluttering Revisited

Social decluttering:  Challenging, potentially awkward, and absolutely necessary.

If you enjoyed episode 4 of the podcast, you’ll love this conversation, in which Tracey and I explore the question:  Does being your authentic self across all areas of your life organically weed people out?

We talk about social decluttering as it relates to dating, family, and — once again — friendships, and offer advice on how to gracefully exit a date, a relationship, or a contentious family situation.

We’re also discussing boundaries, authenticity, and self-knowledge as essential precursors to effective social decluttering, and the power of the “Fuck Yes” rule when determining what you really want.

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Highlights from this episode include:

  • Episode 4 on Social Decluttering
  • Why I don’t like the word “authentic” but we’re going to use it anyway
  • How do you know if you’re being your authentic self?
  • Fuck Yes Or No by Mark Manson
  • Hell Yeah or No by Derek Sivers
  • Tracey’s advice for using the Fuck Yes test while dating
  • Are you allowed to end a date early and leave?
  • How Tracey and I broke all the so-called dating rules when we first started dating our current partners
  • Why I believe you should talk about procreation early on in dating, especially if you’re in your 30s
  • Does being your authentic self mean being a kind person?
  • The relationship between boundaries, authenticity, and kindness
  • Is it ever ok to not be your authentic self to make a situation more comfortable? With family or at work?
  • How privilege often allows us significantly more freedom to be our authentic selves — especially in a work environment — and makes us a responsible for speaking out against bigotry, racism, etc.
  • Why Tracey and I are so open about our beliefs as service-based business owners
  • Grey couch people and giving yourself permission to disengage from a relationship
  • Dan Savage and the Savage Lovecast
  • Cultivating your authentic self is a process
  • How Tracey and I started learning who our authentic selves are and what that looked like when we were younger
  • And more!

This week’s animal spotlight from the Pixie Project:

RAVEN, a beautiful, 12 year old black cat, who loves to snuggle and meditate, and who has, sadly, been declawed. She’s super low-maintenance and is friendly with other cats, dogs, and pretty much all humans. Easy peasy. Go here to view her profile and to fill out an application.

SNOW, a sweet, 9-month old kitty, who is looking for a mellow, low-key family to join. He’s a pretty shy guy, but warms up to most folks once he acclimated to a new place and gained a little confidence. His info can be found here. Check him out and take him home.

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