“Whatever can happen at any time can happen today.” ~Seneca, On the Shortness of Life I remember being introduced to The Secret about a decade ago (just after it made it’s widely popular debut thanks to Oprah), and completely buying into the idea that I could manifest what I desired by imagining it would be so and creating a vision board …
On CrossFit and Body Image and Widening the Lens on Female Beauty
“In all the years I’ve been a therapist, I’ve yet to meet one girl who likes her body.” ~Mary Pipher, Author of Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls “There is more wisdom in your bodies than in your deepest philosophies.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche I have a confession: I love CrossFit. (Gasp.) Like a lot of folks, I once had about …
Why We Must Choose Curiosity Over Comfort
“Curiosity killed the cat, but where human beings are concerned, the only thing a healthy curiosity can kill is ignorance.” ~Harry Lorayne I’ve been quiet around here lately. Truthfully, I haven’t really known what to say. So much has happened in the world in recents weeks, and I have found myself wanting to listen more than I talk, to observe, …
Your Brain is a Jerk: On Negativity Bias, Neuroplasticity, and Cultivating Curiosity
“The brain is a monstrous, beautiful mess.” ~Susannah Calahan, Brain on Fire: My Month of Madness Let’s talk about how your brain is kind of a jerk. This is largely because it has a built-in negativity bias, and is — by design — more finely attuned to bad stimuli than to good. Simply put, this means that you are more deeply …
Wrinkles, Gray Hair, and Cellulite? You Can Have Them All, But Still Feel Beautiful. I Do. (Or, How the Messaging Behind Skin Care and Beauty Products is Just as Toxic as the Ingredients)
“It is lovely to meet an old person whose face is deeply lined, a face that has been deeply inhabited, to look in the eyes and find light there.” ~John O’Donohue When I was in 7th grade, I remember being invited to a pool party for a friend’s birthday and firmly deciding that I would not go because the tan …
On Work and Recovery and Being Intentionally Unproductive: How Rest Days Actually Make You Stronger
“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.” ~John Lubbock, The Use of Life What’s your personal rhythm? This is question I’ve been contemplating a lot recently. Especially …
Let’s Change the Conversation About Bodies. Because They’re a Whole Lot More Interesting Than We’re Making Them Out To Be. (Also: This Post Might Talk About Sex. Don’t Say I Didn’t Warn You.)
“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.” ~Rita Mae Brown On Sunday of this week, I got on a scale for the first time in at least six years. And for the first time in almost a decade, I actually looked at the number that appeared when I did. This, you guys, was a …
How You Relate To Your Body Is How You Relate To The World. Because Writing About Dating Wasn’t Personal Enough So I Thought I’d Give Body Image A Try.
“The body is our general medium for having a world.” ~ Maurice Merleau-Ponty, Phenomenology of Perception To say that my relationship with my body has been strained is to understate the reality of things quite a bit. In fact, this relationship has probably been the most challenging and heartbreaking and life-changing relationship of which I have ever been a part. …