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    New Body, Old Programming: Why It’s Ok to Love Your Body Regardless of Your Size

New Body, Old Programming: Why It’s Ok to Love Your Body Regardless of Your Size

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.” ~Charles Bukowski

Earlier this week, a few hours after waking up, I made the rare (in my case) decision to jump on the scale in my bathroom and find out what I weighed on that particular day.

Why? I seriously have no idea. Curiosity, I suppose.

It had been over a year since I last weighed myself. And before that? Well, let’s just say I’d spent the previous decade intentionally evading scales and asking to be weighed backwards at the doctor’s office, afraid that knowing the pounds and ounces of my own body might result in […]

On Breaking Out of the Arbitrary Success Box

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” ~Winston Churchill

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about identity. About how we define ourselves. About how we define success. About how we determine our worth in a world that sees our value as individuals through the lens of some seriously questionable criteria.

And a shockingly soulless list of priorities.

Because it is all too easy in our society to feel like a failure if your life doesn’t look shiny and pretty and perfectly curated.

If you’re not bringing in a certain amount of money every month or living in the […]

Make Your Joy Non-Negotiable

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” ~Desmond Tutu

To say that I have been feeling a general lack of hope or positivity or joy over the past few weeks would be to greatly underrepresent how awful I have actually felt much of the time.

Because what is taking place in our country right now is both disheartening and terrifying, rage-inducing and saddening, and is just completely overwhelming in scope.

I have found myself bursting into spontaneous tears at the dinner table, waking at 4am consumed by anxiety, and finding it […]

We’re All in this Together

I have been relatively quiet in this space over the past couple of weeks, not wanting to allow what’s happening politically to dominate my website, as my overall goal here is to provide (hopefully) useful insights on how to live a healthier and more fulfilled life.

The truth is, however, that what’s happening politically in our country right now has really been at the forefront of my mind, especially since the inauguration. And regardless of what you believe, I think we can all agree that it has been a bit overwhelming to process all of the things taking place in our country right now.

I have also not been shy about […]

What Bravery Looks Like

“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~Brene Brown

Last week, I confessed to a dear friend that I am secretly holding onto the belief that I am the least brave person I know.

She literally laughed in my face when I said this to her.

Which made me laugh. And then made me love her even more.

Because, you know what? She’s right. I am brave. And my resistance to allowing this to be true in my life and my failure to give myself actual credit for all of the courageous things I have accomplished […]

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    Where Do We Go From Here? Some Thoughts About the Year Ahead.

Where Do We Go From Here? Some Thoughts About the Year Ahead.

“Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it. Make your mistakes, next year and forever.” ~Neil Gaiman

This past year was a paradigm-shifting year for me.

For a lot of folks, I think.

It brought so much buried shit to the surface in my life personally, it sort of feels like 2017 is going to be all about sifting through the mess, trying to make sense of what’s in front of me without completely losing my mind.

I think this happened on both a national and a global scale as well.

The beautiful thing about getting all this shadowy stuff out where we can see it, is that we’re now forced to actually engage […]

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    We’re All Below Average Sometimes: On Compassion, Kindness, and Not Becoming a Narcissist

We’re All Below Average Sometimes: On Compassion, Kindness, and Not Becoming a Narcissist

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” ~Desmond Tutu

Last week, I had a drink with a friend — a wise, wise woman who also happens to be a very talented therapist — and she recounted for me a story about suggesting to a client that perhaps happiness isn’t actually what we should be chasing after in this life.

What if happiness isn’t the goal?

My friend said her client’s mind was blown. But also:  There was SO MUCH relief in realizing that she didn’t have to be happy in […]

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    Your Art is Essential. (Or, On Being Creative In Times Like These.)

Your Art is Essential. (Or, On Being Creative In Times Like These.)

“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.” ~Osho

One of my favorite things on in the internet right now is Brain Pickings — the magical creation of a super inspiring woman, Maria Popova, that serves as a daily celebration of creativity and contribution, and our capacity to cultivate more meaningful lives through collaboration and cross-pollination and the intentional expansion of our […]

You Are Powerful. Also: Happy Thanksgiving, Everyone.

“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.” ~Ernest Hemingway

Well, Thanksgiving is right around the corner, you guys. I have been trying to focus on all the things for which I am grateful amidst the chaos and the absurdity and the unsettling political reality by which we are all surrounded right now.

I admit:  It has been challenging.

But I still believe (as I wrote prior to the election being over) that we cannot lose sight of our joy even while there is legitimately horrifying and heartbreaking stuff happening in this world at the moment.

Because once we allow the awfulness of it all to […]

The Day After (Or, My Thoughts on the Election)

“We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.” ~ J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

For the first time ever following a presidential election, I woke up this morning and wept.

Because I am heartbroken about what happened last night.

Devastated that so many people in our country allowed fear and hatred to be the driving force in determining how they ultimately decided to vote.

I realize now how naive I have been. How blind I have been to the racism and the sexism and the bigotry still alive in this country. And how much work there is left to do to make things